Morale-boosting

Great! I could make use of it to pay off my loan partially although it's not much. Thanks JD Power. I will look forward to April '07 for brighter news. Hehehe..

Meanwhile, yesterday's dinner was at Vivocity's newly open Hong Kong Kim Gary with Racer. Supposed to be the first outlet in Singapore while there are plenty alraedy in HK and Malaysia. I would rate a 7.5 out of 10 for the food quality there as I slowly took bites on the chicken steak baked rice with swiss cheese and white sauce. And I've been wondering what sauce the white sauce was. Haha. The red sauce picked by Racer was tomato sauce. Service wise was just fairly acceptable as I need to make several calls of request for the things ought to be present on the table. Hmmm..Cards were not acceptable yet, so we paid in cash. The Christmas tree at the main entrance spotted a groovy design, but overall it's quite presentable and special, not like the hideous xmas decorated trees you could see right outside Plaza Singapura.

As for today, OT-ed and ate at Macs again. Were served by a Malay service attendant, exchanged some small talks,friendly person, not like the Chinese in his mid-40s who took my order at the same outlet two weeks ago, he didn't bother to give a smile at all. After finishing my dinner, I made effort to throw my rubbish myself and not leaving it on the table. Haha, maybe after reading the news article on Today recently so I felt like upholding my long-lost civic-mindedness again..Haha..Oh well, that's a good and proud feeling to have after all.

Took train home as I pondered how to structure my presentation on how to do the mTab final materials tomorrow. It's within my grasp almost completely, and it just needs a finishing touch where I could make use of an hour's time or less tomorrow morning. Voices in my head are telling me to be ambitious and stay positive to embrace new challenges with open arms for the betterment of my personal market value.

Submitted application form to NUS Extension for Basic Conversational Korean I. Going to take that course with Molly on every Tuesday 7-9:30pm from 27th Feb 07 onwards, which is right after my CNY holiday at home, but for beginning of the year, there won't not be a deluge of projects so I reckon I should be able to manage the course well. Sooner or later, you will see me typing Korean in MSN nick or even keying in my thoughts here. Haha. Still putting my Japanese language learning to shelf, not knowing when to continue that. Molly is doing hers at JCS, but I think for a year, she has not learned the Kanji words yet, which I think should be learned from the beginning as well, together with the Hiragana and Katakana writing system. Oh..having inflammation is rather torturous, maybe it is a sign of ageing. Tsk tsk tsk.

Tourism industry in Singapore

Booming should be a descriptive word to be used for the tourism industry in Singapore considering the SGD15 billion revenue(windfall in trade) to be generated by the year of 2015 for the two Integrated Resorts(IR) projects which will going under construction very soon. The government has been quick enough to implement these projects to remain competitive in the industry on regional, if not global basis. Therefore, we will have more places to spend our time and life would become much more happening.

I'm so absolutely looking forward to the IRs, hoping that it'd be completed ahead of time!

Universal Studios with a huge theme park bigger than the one in Los Angeles, Las Vegas Sands Casino at the Marina Bay IR,The Quest Marine Life Park, The Equarius Water Park, The Maritime Xperiential Museum, and other entertainment offerings located along FestiveWalk.

(.....more on the IR,courtesy of Yahoo! Asia News...)

"..........Universal Studios will have its largest theme park in Asia at Resorts World at Sentosa offering 22 attractions within seven themed worlds, of which 16 will be specially designed for Singapore. There will be seven themed worlds within Universal Studios Singapore namely: Waterworld, Lost World, Egypt, Super Hero City, Back Lot-The Big Apple, Hollywood Boulevard and Cartoon Studios. Key highlights include the all-new “Journey to Madagascar” attraction and the Dreamworks Digital Animation Studios which will showcase the cutting edge of movie-making and real-time animation. Resorts World at Sentosa will also offer other family entertainment experiences such as Quest Marine Life Park an oceanarium spanning 8 hectares with the largest single marine tank in the world, a 6.5 million gallon Whale Shark Lagoon, and interactive dolphin habitat, operated by the world-renowned Dolphin Quest. Other attractions include the 1.3 hectares Equarius Water Park which is a water theme park custom-designed to integrate with the hillside terrain of Sentosa and a Maritime Xperiential Museum set at the waterfront. This is expected to be the world’s first maritime silk route museum, dedicated to the subject of the maritime silk route between East Asia and the Middle East and will house the world’s first historical research centre dedicated to the subject. There will also be exhibits such as a full-scale glass replica of an ancient trading ship, a 360-degrees multimedia motion shipwreck theatre as well as live performances by acrobats on-board the ‘Bao Chuan” (Zheng He boat). There will also be entertainment along the retail, dining and entertainment precinct of FestiveWalk, three public amphitheatres: The ShowPlace, an open-air 2,150 seat public amphitheatre; The Bull Ring, a 6,300 seating capacity amphitheatre; and Imagineering, a 1,714 seating capacity theatre which provides a magical dreamlike show with water, light and visual effects.Visitors will also be able to catch the Crane Ballet, a showcase of multi-media moving art with choreographed animatronic crane dances nightly at the Festivewalk, with colourful streams of light, water and fire, all in sync with music and enhanced with video images on giant LCD screens. Resorts World at Sentosa will also feature a resident show – ‘Le Vie’ (Life)which is put together by members from the same creative team behind the Cirque du Soleil blockbusters such as ‘KA’ and ‘O’ in Las Vegas.There will be a total of six hotels offering 1,830 rooms including a first-in-the-world hotel - Hotel Michael - designed by award-winning architect, Michael Graves. In addition, there is the ESPA Spa centre, offering programmes for wellness and self-improvement as well as 42 private ESPA Villas. Visitors will also be able to be entertained at signature gourmet restaurants with Masterchefs such as Alain Fabregues, Alan Wong, Scott Webster, Marlon Abele-MARC Group, Gary Kunz, Harlan Goldstein, Susur Lee, Luke Mangan and Don Pintabona..........."

....Despite the fact that I won't be going to the theme parks again and again, I still strongly welcome the idea of the project, and much more key and novel projects will be welcome too.

As for office affairs today, it ended on a positive note and I have finally found my niche at work, not 100% yet, but confidence level has been highly boosted due to greater familiarity and days of hard work and countless OT hours to scramble from scratch.

***removed the photos coz the links don't seem to be working..hmm**

Xmas gift shopping

Christmas is just around the corner, I shall be going for gifts hunting for my gf. What should I get for her this year? I need to go to the town and see what is nice and trendy stuff lately. I suppose she's now cruising towards Penang, enjoying her time with family. Kinda miss her now actually as I used to talk to her on the phone every night before turning in. Hmmm..

Called home just now and my family just came back from a trip to Ipoh. Hmmm..the last time I went there was last year's August when my NUS classmate, Angela was holding her wedding banquet there. Mich also went along and we stayed at the Casuarina Hotel, where the banquet was held too. The hotel seemed to be quite cosy and nice and we enjoyed the stay there despite the fact that we didn't go to the touristy spots like the temple caves. She was not feeling well then. Hmmm.

Anyway, I intend to take the Basic Conversational Korean I in late February at the NUS Extension, the class timing should be alright as it's a Tuesday night from 7-9.30pm starting from 27 February. Molly(my colleague) has been also wanting to do that so I would probably with taking the lesson with her. Hehe, she's also an ardent language learner and perhaps some day I can pick up a few Thai phrases from her. Yeah, she's a Thai and working fully on Thai projects in my company.

Here's some backdated photos for your viewing pleasure....

Mattcha Zen @ Azabu Sabo Hokkaido Ice Cream,Marina Square

It's green tea ice cream with glutinous rice balls & red bean toppings. Absolutely delicious.

Love fades,life still goes on

My ex-high school mate,SS just broke up with her bf again. Yes again, and this time it seemed to be so serious that she's always breaking down. That ex-bf of hers totally shut her out of his life, didn't seem to be wanting to be even a friend to her. Yesterday she was confiding in me that he seemed to have blocked her or even deleted her msn based on what she had observed since that guy always used to go online every night. So that was why she suspected so and asking me whether I knew the logic behind his action. She told me that he has been ignoring her calls even if she had tried calling him from noon to dusk. The way she unfolded the story, made me feeling sad for her predicament too, shedding tears after every sentence she uttered out about her sorrows. She was particularly confused why would he wanna block her in msn. I guess he should be feeling embarassed about what to talk about as friends, and perhaps he just wanted to stay out of her life and moved on to a new relationship which he is now having. Love fades, life still goes on, SS. I do hope that she will quickly move on to her life since there are other aspects that we should cherish such as family and close friends who are always by our side. SS, there are other better trees in the forest, do not give up just because of one rotten tree,get me? I think he was also not a good bf, always playing computer games, refusing to have meals with her family occasions sometimes(birthday dinners etc), seemed to be neglecting her at times.

On hindsight, thinking of my own predicament, I still feel like a fish out of water, feeling like a wooden log, being drifted away to a non-specific direction on the sea by strong currents.Feeling like I'm in Pacific Ocean, with no land within my sight. Or perhaps I'm picturing myself in the Sahara Desert, being dehydrated, looking for an oasis. Every day, I'm rumbling about having unsolved problems with her, but on the whole, no concrete decision has been made to rectify the current situation. I am just fearful of marriage, I just don't want to get married early, but why am I so fearful of getting married?Is it because of the marriage itself, or perhaps I just want to remain in the status quo? Why is it that change is something that I fear of now? Is it because that she is really not somebody that I wanna get married to? This question is hitting my mind every now and then, it's something that I am seriously thinking for a solution. Why am I looking for a solution now?I just don't want to waste my gf's time if I am really not into her. A girl's youth is limited especially when one plans to set up a family with a few kids to raise.

Things to spend money on for HK trip

1) Octopus card HKD150(refundable deposit of HKD50)

2) A prepaid card from 7-11 HKD100

3) Museum pass(for the primary museums) HKD50

4) Cheung Chau trip(2 way ferry fare from Central Pier)/Poi To Islands-Need to do research on the fare

5) Disneyland-Regular Day HKD295, but I have a friend whose mum's colleague knowing a staff working there, so it's gonna be in the range of HKD100-150.

6) Pigging out in HK-this time I'm gonna be serious in looking for great food...as a starter, I will go to the Golden Seafood Restaurant(somewhere near Tin Hau) and eat the lobster and crab which has been recommended by my friend as delicious and affordable! And at least one famous Dim Sum restaurant.

7) Lan Kwai Fong-Hei hei Club, Edge, Sugar or Club No 9

8) 1-2 day trip to Guangzhou/Shenzhen, but that would be a single entry visa application of SGD80 plus a two-way bus trip costing HKD200. But I think it might be cheaper to catch a bus from Shenzhen bus terminal if there's one as I will be staying in Tai Po which is quite near the PRC border. I think perhaps I can go to Shenzhen to visit the touristy sports like "Windows of the World" , "Splendid China" and "China Folk Culture Village" if time and money allow.

9) Concert in Coliseum? Hmm, I haven't checked whether there is any particular singer whom I like will be staging concerts in Coliseum when I am in HK...gotto follow up on that soon.

10) Sai Kung Country Park-some outdoor activities-cycling

11) Steamboat with Edmund and his family at home, yeah HK people like to have steamboat during winter season, perhaps I can spend around HKD 200-HKD300 to buy all the ingredients or bring them out to a restaurant to have lunch/dinner.

12) Shopping at Tsim Sha Tsui/Nathan Road/HarbourCity/Mongkok/Causeway Bay/Yau Ma Tei....I wanna buy some nice working shirts there which has special/groovy designs. But it can't be so groovy that it will look gayish. Haha. Some souvenirs and titbits for friends and family.

13) A new digital Camera? Panasonic Lumix FX50. Canon Ixus is not bad, but I think the image stabilisation mode for Panasonic has an unbeaten track record. And I prefer the wide angle 28 mm and the 3 inches LCD screen so that everyone can be captured in the photo without much difficulties. 3.6x optical zoom should be better too. About SGD400-500.

14) Hong Kong Island
a)The University of Hong Kong @ Pok Fulam. Back to my alma mater where I studied for one semester(4 months). Gonna make a tour to see how it has developed.
b) Causeway Bay-carefree shopping and sing K at Green Box(since in Malaysia we have Red Box and Neway already =>)
c) Central-meet up with a friend for lunch who's working there.
d) Wan Chai-Golden Bauhinia that area.

15) Sheung Wan/Kennedy Town- to hunt for nice dried goods for my mom and granny.

15) Lantau Island
a) Ngong Ping 360-should be a breathtaking revolving cable car trip from Tung Chung to Ngong Ping-new touristy spot this year.

16) Lei Yue Mun-to take photographs of the tranquil fishing village

Places that I have been to and won't be going most probably:
a) Victoria Peak
b) Stanley Beach
c) Shek O-I think I had a BBQ orientation party there under German Association.
d) Po Lin Monastery & Mui Wo(had seafood there b4)-Lantau Island
e) Tsuen Wan(Yunnan Ma La super spicy noodles shop)
f) Lamma Island
g) Wong Tai Sing Temple
h) Shatin Race Course

沉默

我觉得我的生活实在太沉闷了。刚刚和FF在MSN聊天，现在觉得舒服一点了。真的要感谢她肯为我担忧。其实，我总是觉得最了解我的人并不是我的女朋友，这件事我知道不是一件好事，可是我无可奈何。即使和他拍拖有五年的时间，我还是三番四次在想她到底是否一个我想要娶的人。五年以现在的标准来说，是相当之长的一段时间。难道我真的要这样拖下去吗？真的想不通。这个困扰一直在这几个星期缠着我，让我有时候坐立不安。どうしようかな。。。。

Costochondritis

The title seems a little hard to digest. So what is costochondritis and what is it got to do with me? Yes, I have been diagnosed of having that and it was the same thing that I had back in late January this year that caused me to quit my 1st job for health reasons. Now I am having it again and I am quite worried that it might be taking a toll on my life again. I had been told by two doctors that there was no instant cure and the causes were unknown too.

Time of the Year

It's the time of the year where resolutions are made so that we are much better off year after year. Nevertheless, I have yet to think of any yet, but I will kick off year 2007 by a 8 days 7 night trip to Hong Kong. Yes, the HKSAR. I absolutely love the country to the max!! No kidding, I have ever thought of maybe going there once a year, provided my best HK friend welcomes me all the time! So I should always think of a high value investment in birthday present that I mail to him yearly since 2004. *evil laughs* . Edmund, as I call him, is a really friendly and caring friend. He has come to Singapore for a few times and actually thinks that it's a much cleaner place than HK so that's why he prefers Singapore. He seems to like spicy food here and me too! Haha. we can get along very well, so I'm seriously looking forward to staying at his house and meeting his family. His house is at Tai Po, a town located in New Territories, which is not near to the Hong Kong Island. But then again, staying with a HK foster family is my first time and then I suppose not much people can get to experience that so I indeed feel so privileged. Planning to go to Disneyland to see what is it like since I don't have the budget to go to the real Disneyland in the Florida or even Tokyo Disneyland.

Now I am thinking whether I should drop by at Guangzhou/Shenzhen or not since Malaysians have to apply for visa to get into China. About SGD80 for a single entry visa and then about HKD200(SGD40) for a return bus ticket fare. And a one-day trip would suffice according to one of my friend who's a new immigrant from China in HK. New immigrant as in her parents emigrated from China to HK while she was still a toddler. This community is termed like that in HK for those people. Well, I need to go to those places that I have never been to yet in HK, such as Cheung Chau Island, Sai Kung, some good restaurants in Tsim Sha Tsui along Nathan Road,
and some other interesting places that I will find out by borrowing travelling books from Woodlands Regional Library. Will meet some of my friends whom I have met there and happen to be able to click with me, as compared to others. Edmund, as I mentioned earlier, Nelson, Winnie, Carmen,Connie, Michelle, Fiona, Jerry,Candice. And then maybe I will go visit City University of Hong Kong and other universities if there's time. Not forgetting The University of Hong Kong which is such a nostalgia to me.

Photos from Big Boyz Toys

I just came back from Expo, visiting the Big Boyz Toys and SITEX, and a bit of John Little. Anyway, the title is photos from Big Boyz Toyz, but where are the photos??Aiya, this blogspot is having a problem with the server now, wish4ver said that it's due to the change to beta google version that has made it rather unstable. Beta version is also touted to be unstable. Sheesh! Okay, be patient, my audience. I will upload them in my friendster first, so maybe you can go there and take a look.

Snacked a lot at the Expo, ate the Chilli Crab Chicken Jazzi Bun, and then Korean Sausage(which costs SGD2.50...), then a packet of char mee, with soya bean as the finishing touch. Hehe..feeling replete in the end.

And today, at the Expo, I have bumped into my long lost friend who is currently a pilot trainee at Seletar Camp. Wow, it's been I think 8 years since I last saw him. He was with a pretty good looking lass, whom I thought was his gf. Anyway, it made me think of the days with him during my A Level course back in KL.

Department dinner was great...

The dinner that I organised was a success! Though some of my managers like Felicia and Gokul were too busy to leave the office with us and were late despite having me scurrying them for a few times. Oops..so we walked to Suntec City and then there we were, Marche Movenpick, but we were told that they could only seat us until all of us were present. Oh my..more waiting then....finally F and G arrived and we hurriedly made a beeline to make our orders since it was 8 something and by then we were made so famished..I ordered a plate of sambal stingray while Andrew chose the dory fillet. And then we shared a plate of Swiss Rosti + Jumbo Garlic Sausage..very sinfully delicious! Right after that, based on my suggestion two days ago, we took a walk to Marina Square to proceed to our next activity. Dessert at Azabu Sabo at which I ordered a bowl of Mattcha Zen.It is a scoop of Hokkaido style home-made green tea ice-cream surrounded by red bean and plain glutinous rice ball which tasted awesome!Worth my time for recommending that to my friends.

Department Dinner Dec '06

Having fun tonight again, I'll be organising a dinner for my department of 9 people, so must do that well.

Well

Yes,I got back with my gf, almost broke up with her last week, but patched things up with her soon...but today I am talking to her about the issue of marriage again as she may not want to wait until after 30 years old for that. It may also be unfair to her if we break up a few years later due to the same reason again..So what should I do now...

Login-ed to my xanga again and then found out that the features there have improved...Maybe I should be updating both blogs again....Hehe..

Had dinner with Mich at Dian Xiao Er which is located at Marina Square. It's a Chinese restaurant and the Mongolian Pork Ribs was delicious! And for the first time I drank the Nu Er Hong(Daughter Red/Rose). Nice experience because I have always heard about that in period dramas but never had the chance to get a taste of it.

Love bug

Approaching 5 years into the relationship,and what's the next issue would you wanna discuss with your lover?Marriage, inevitably, would come up in your mind spontaneously if you are witty enough.

I attended my colleague's wedding banquet at York Hotel at Orchard yesterday night, and there he was, treading on a slow but steady procession on the red carpet with his wife with whom he is going to spend the entire life. The newly wedded couples looked exceptionally fabulous, that's why in Malay language we have the simpulan bahasa(idiomatic phrase) called "Raja sehari". They were both king and queen the night, having all the eyes focused on them while being on the stage. Video footages of both of them growing up were played and then also the things that they have been doing together, photos of the places they have travelled to, and the marriage ceremony they had to go through before coming together as a legally married husband and wife.

So, back to myself, is my gf the one I really wanna marry? It's an important issue now, as I need to know whether I really can't live without her. Is it really that serious? Yes, of course when it comes to marrying somebody and living with her for the rest of my life. If it is not clear, then one might end up marrying somebody and end up getting a divorce which would spell disaster to each one's life. It can be a catastrophy. The truth is, you can be happy with your lover before getting married and then there's chance that you will argue with him every day after marriage.
I am not thinking that far ahead,but right now at this moment, I believe that I am rather not so happy, though the nostalgic feeling keeps on rolling in insidiously as I slowly reminisce the sweet memories we had together and how nice and fulfilling gf she was until I said that we need a break up. Yes, that's the climax. I said break up to her yesterday night, in a really serious manner, not considering the teary eyes I had while talking to her about that.

Unwanted

This is another entry for chronicling my depressive state again. I feel unwanted again. Feeling that this world has no place for me to stand in, there have been so much daunting events which befell me for the past few weeks that I begin to think that whether I am really that bad or not. My self-esteem has been rock-bottom for a month already, which won't be surprising to you if you have been reading my blog religiously. Sometimes I think the more I blog about my depression here, the worse it will become. This kind of inferiority complex is really killing me, I really feel very down, despite having friends consoling me that it'd be alright sooner or later.

Ironically, to manage my depression, I have been attempting to cook several dishes, including curry chicken with potato which I managed to cook it successfully yesterday. I bought the curry paste from Fairprice, and also lemongrass, chicken drumsticks, small red onions and potatoes. Wahh..it's my first curry dish, it seemed to be quite tasty, but I think it may need an extra touch of taste from additional curry leaves because the curry paste ingredients contained curry leaves so I did not buy it separately. Anyway, I'll be cooking it again this coming weekend as requested by someone special. Haha. Okay, I think it'd be good since I can go and shop for better ingredients in Little India. Furthermore, the three cookbooks that I borrowed from the Woodlands library today seem to promise me tantalising dishes that I'd be learning to cook for the next two weeks so as to occupy some free time of mine to avert from falling into the depression trap again, hopefully.

Staying Alive

I am still here. Comparing to others, I consider myself as a fortunate person relatively. I think I ought to feel complacent to the level I don't feel depressed anymore, but not to the level where I am so comfortable with my current position that I stop searching for a permanent job. Do I really have to find a job now, or is it a career that I'm supposed to find now so that history would not recur? My doubts are not as intense as previously though, I think I managed to boost my self-esteem a bit after securing a temporary position to do for one month. For people who are concerned with me, I really thank them for their supports which have enabled me to carry myself well all this long, and I can still take care of myself well despite being in the doldrums. I think I have become a stronger person, and lately I tend to see bad things that happened in a positive manner, I think everyone should see those things as blessings in disguise. Any bad happenings are deemed as resource to train you to become more independent, and it should be viewed as something value-adding to our life. It's a bit ridiculous if you think of it initially. Sadist, in the emotional way. But at least, it keeps me going and helps me with how to live a happier life.

Life goes on, even if you are faced with the worst setback

It's been really a difficult period for me, as I've been reminding myself to stay calm and hope for a better tomorrow. This melancholic feeling is growing within my mind again. I really think that I'm good for nothing, I really feel that my degree is useless, nobody wants to employ me, so what will become of me? I don't know. Yes, that's always my answer to things that seem complicated to me. It's a flight response. My entire mind is controlling my body not to fight subsconsciously. I think it's better for me to die and relieve myself of all these sorrows. Seriously, you would be thinking that I don't deserve any compassion since the things I've said here are utterly stupid, as you may be thinking that comparing to those people living on the streets and under the bridges, I am far much better than them and should learn to be complacent and live on and fight till the end. Unemployment sucks. Really. Not that you have never experienced that before, it's just that you have to overcome the misperception of others hailing you as somebody who is a useless piece of crap. It's really something ugly to conceive about. Your friends may always support you morally or sometimes even financially if you have earned their trusts on you previously, however things may become ugly if egoism and self-esteem get in your way of thinking. What I need to find is my self-esteem. I wanna find it back, though I may not have a very high self-esteem last time, but I guess it's going down the gutters if I am unable to get a job soon, whether permanent or temporary position. Now I am in position of neither here nor there. Like getting stucked and lost at a cross junction, not knowing which direction to go. Undoubtedly, I don't have friends who know me inside out. Even my girlfriend thinks that it's gonna be alright and things will be better soon and then I would feel better eventually. Yeah, perhaps she's somebody who's been my supportive and closest friend of all. Beyond that, I don't think that anyone else could understand me more, not even my family members. But in the first place, you can't expect somebody else to know what you are thinking deep down inside, for the reason that it's gonna be extremely intimidating that every move you make would be anticipated by that person. After all, I am just an ordinary and unremarkable person only, it's pointless for others to predict what I am going to do next since it would be very likely to be something justifiably predictable.

What I am trying to achieve in this blog entry is to keep reminding myself to think positively, to think that I am living my life for myself, not for other people, so comparison with peers and friends would deem to be rather useless. The important thing for me is to stay on the track, and try to avert off-track emotions which ought not to be in such a critical time for which strength and determination hold pivot roles for me to continue my hunt for the next job. Positive thinking really helps a lot really, perhaps I can take this unemployment period as a time for me to look at things clearly and from different facets of views. Friends that know me mostly think that I am friendly and sometimes loud, but I can get rather sensitive and emotional at certain things under different circumstances. I really hope that I can ward off all the negative thinking that have been infesting my mind for the past few days.

那些水果是凉性的，那些是热性的？

天气分寒热，水果也是分寒热的，如果自己的身体不适合吃寒性或热性的水果，食用不当或吃得过多，就会对身体造成严重的负面影响。那么，究竟水果如何分寒热，爱吃水果的你又该如何选择呢？

寒凉水果解燥热

夏天的水果多属于寒凉性的，比如梨和各种瓜类。一般来说，实热体质的人夏天代谢旺盛，交感神经占优势，出汗多，经常脸色通红、口干舌燥、易烦躁、容易便秘，夏天特别喜欢吃凉东西。所以，热体质人群可以适当多吃一些寒凉性的水果。 但是，寒性水果不能多吃，否则对身体有害。比如，梨味道甘甜，具有止泻、通便、助消化的作用，经常吃可以使肌肤白嫩。但由于其中含有丰富的糖类和钾盐，食用过多会有损心、肾健康，像冠心病、心肌梗死、肾炎及糖尿病患者都不能多食，而中气不足、精神疲劳的人倒可以当做滋补水果多吃一点。 而像梨、柑橘、柚子等水果，具有止咳、化痰、润肺、助消化的作用，但多吃却容易造成肠胃紊乱，还能导致牙痛、痔疮，甚至引起皮肤黄斑。因此，有胃病、胃寒的人最好少吃。 气虚、脾虚的人在选择西瓜、香瓜、芒果、梨和香蕉这几种冷性的水果时要特别谨慎，最好不要吃。气虚，一般是指中气不足，这些人一般脸色比较苍白、体格瘦小、吃不下饭；而脾虚，是说消化系统比较差，肠蠕动慢。所以，越吃寒冷的水果，越会降低肠胃蠕动，使肌肉无力，吃多了会因为消化不良而导致腹胀。因此，肠胃功能不好的老人和孩子，不太适合吃寒凉水果，如果真的很想吃，可以在午饭后、晚饭前，少吃一点，不可过量。

夏日寒凉水果：香瓜、西瓜、梨、香蕉、奇异果、芒果、柿子、荸荠、甜瓜、柚子等。

温热水果补虚寒

虽说夏天寒凉性水果比较多，但在众多水果中，像荔枝、桂圆、杏等属于温热性,也是相当受人们欢迎的。尤其对于虚寒体质的人来说，他们气虚脾虚，基础代谢率低，体内产生的热量少，四肢即使在夏天也是冷的。相比较而言，这类人群的面色比常人白，而且很少口渴，也不喜欢接触凉的东西，包括进空调房间。所以，这些人多吃些温热的水果无疑是补寒妙法。 不过，一般人大热天吃太多温热的水果却很容易上火。 比如，荔枝中含有降糖成分，多吃会出现低糖反应。而对于热性体质的人，由于本身就精力充沛、晚上不易入眠，再加上代谢率偏高，所以更不能吃温热水果。另外，正在发烧或某器官正在发炎的孩子也尽量避免食用。

夏日温热水果:荔枝、桃、龙眼、樱桃、椰子、榴莲、杏等。

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Tips on resolving arguments

These guidelines below tend to have its usefulness when the time comes. Ponder over it and you will see the light.

1. Compromise
Having a little of something to make your partner happy is better than not having anything at all. Think of ways that you can solve the problem through giving and taking a little.

2. Be positive
Instead of focusing only on the negative, think about the positive aspects of your relationship. It will keep you in a better frame of mind to address the issues ahead.

3. Listen
Take the time to consider your partner's views and show that you have understood what is being said

4. Remain calm
Getting frustrated solves nothing. If the discussion is getting nowhere, take some time to cool down. Go for a walk, or simply retreat to another part of the house till you are calm enough to pick up where u left off.

5. Watch your body language
You may say you are sorry but if you are gesticulating wildly, the message your partner gets is very different. Make sure that your body language, facial expressions and vocal tone are consistent with what you say

6. Say what you mean in a tactful manner
You may be afraid to say something or address the real issue at hand. But beating about the bush or being sarcastic about it will make things worse. It is better to get things out in the open so that the problem can immediately be dealt with. Learn to be tactful.

7. Agree to disagree
You are both 2 different individuals so it will be difficult to find a solution that is agreeable to you all the time. If this happens, focus on the positive and end the discussion on a good note. Put across to your partner that while there is no solution at the moment, you will try to work together to find one

8. Stick to the subject
Talking about events in the past which are totally unrelated to the issue at hand only makes things worse. Stick to the issue at hand if you want a fast resolution

9. Respect your partner
Never be rude or put your partner down and say hurtful things deliberately. You will regret it later after you have calmed down, but you can never take back the hurt which you might have caused.

10. Remember why both of you are in the relationship
A healthy relationship doesn't equate to agreements all the time. And the ability to resolve conflicts may differ according to different individuals, but do keep in mind that a healthy relationship necessarily means the willingness to resolve the conflict.
Also remember, a relationship may be that of between friends, family members and colleagues.

Four quadrants of women

Maybe women can be categorised into 4 groups with 8 subsets
I) eye-candy and nice
II) eye-candy and ah-the-not-so-nice
III) ah-the-not-so-eye-candy and nice
IV) ah-the-not-so-eye-candy and ah-the-not-so-nice.

Wow, it seems like a categorisation idea from someone by the name of Robert Kiyosaki. Haha. Oh well. Yeah, eye-candiness refers to the external appearance of

the woman and niceness means the degree of internal beauty.

Women in group I seem like those movie stars you can easily spot on TV. They are the most popular one amongst men and they seem to men always like the damsel in distress, triggering male protective instinct. They are seen as pretty, sexy, eye-candy, alluring, nubile, aphrodisiac people who remain as fantasies in the minds of men. On top of their appearance, they are in fact pretty within themselves as well, exuding adequate degree of courtesy, respects for the elderly, having compassions for the unfortunate ones(or benevolent), unmaterialistic, down-to-earth, having reasonable consideration towards their loved ones, extremely tactful, so on and so forth. Praise the Lord! Where can I find such a nymph?Haha. God damn it I think this group can be enlisted as Endangered Species.

Women in group II, I would describe them as having complete disregard for the all the people in the world just because they were born pretty. They and their superiority complex, are in fact contemptible and well-deserve a high level of disrespect. Obsessions with their own looks and unscrupulous disposition towards most men whom they don't like, make the entire world full of tearful chaps. They tend to be so over-zealous with the stuffs they do(cosmetics, pedicure, manicures, facials and the list goes on and on) and never keep tabs on their emotional development, making them seem to be like doltish bimbos who are out there to smite powerful and rich mature men using their cosmetically-enhanced appearance and a whole list of masqueraded dispositions.

Now come to women in group III, oh,this group has a broad coverage from the not-so good-looking ones to the cannot-really-make-it faces and flat-chested,as well as those who think that they have unique beauties, who fortunately, have developed a sense of tact and benevolence towards people surrounding them. They know themselves well enough, sometimes grumble over why were they born like that though. Nevertheless, I reckon that the majority women fall under this category considering the trend that I'm seeing now. Haha. They have distinctive ways to make them endearing to the surrounding people, notwithstanding their unattractive(or happen to look rather not-so-appealing to that guy) looks. Sincerity and a reasonable care for other people's feelings(yeah, it's tactfulness again) come into play often when it comes to inter-relationships.

Ahem, the most despicable group, women in group IV. Oh gosh, these people have all the positive qualities stated, not. Ugly, not self-conscious, self-interested, blatant disregard to the people around them(could it be due to the fact that they weren't as lucky as others to be born unappealingly???!!), irascible, dangerous, unreasonable, lackadaisical people apparently. But strictly speaking, the people in this group will have the chance to upgrade themselves to group III if they are able to see the light that this world is not really as merciless as they have always been thinking. There must be friends around to lead them out of the lives of denials for them to live a fulfilled life. I really beseech for the extermination of this group as soon as possible, okay, some buffer period has to be alloted to make time for the group III upgrade so as not to seem like an unabated unfairness. As I am really concerned with the victims in the vicinity of those predators, the victims would be assasinated emotionally on a greater scale, not to mention visually after all.